The peer pressures of Society

I have taken into account that most of my readers are into the helpful guides and society issues throughout the world. 2 top leading blogs with most reads or views is "Language Barriers on Blogs." "Walk the Walk, but can you Talk the Talk?" Which is about the usual barriers or obstacles a regular person would feel or experience in day to day life! So I decided to do a little blog about the Peer pressures of Society.

I have experienced the seriousness of this issue when I was getting ready to go to the mall with my family. I thought well of my outfit, which included a red checkered long sleeved polo, with the sleeves neatly folded above my elbow, and a pair of acid washed shorts and black flat shoes. I thought it was pretty cute considering the fact that I saw it online and thought, 'Wow, that would definitely suit me'

So I take a bath, feeling refreshed and full of confidence, I twirl around in front of my mirror and sing along to a tune as I put on my clothes and adored myself! But then the peer pressure kicks in.

"People might think my legs are big."
"They might think this style is out of time."
"My hair is too short for these clothes."
"They might think I look stupid."

So unfortunately, I remove my clothes, look at my reflection and notice every possible flaw I see in myself and just slither under my blankets.

That is the power of peer pressure, where upon influences from other people get to you and instead of them judging you, you take the privilege and thought of judging yourself based on your insecurities and flaws, not on your beauty and well-being of what you truly are. These kinds of pressure comes from several sources:

1. Expectations.
2. Disappointments.
3. Casualty.
4. Low self esteem.

These are the top factors of my pressure among the other hundreds of other factors out there. Expectations from my parents that I find hard to achieve. Disappointments in my life that I received from people who had expectations. Casualty of life that I created from bad decision making and rash thinking. Low self-esteem from my own self, considering that I myself is my own weakness and metal ball with chain.

First off, these things are natural. They occur in our lives on which we develop ourselves to take necessary actions in order to improve ourselves. But then again, they have a downside on which people who are victims of peer pressure fall into the abyss on which they no longer try, somewhat leading to depression. Most cases talk about suicide. But with a great amount of help, you can accomplish anything, as long as you set your mind on it and let nothing stop you!

How?

First off, have a bunch of friends you can purchase in your local store. Hahahaha! Just kidding. :) It's important to have people who will catch you when you fall, especially in dire times where you really need advice and confidence.

Second, Do not do everything that your friends tell you. Remember, they're just advice. Words or sentences in purpose to serve as a guide or suggestion, sometimes opinion on the necessary action you have to take whenever in pressure. Do what you think is right and proper and allow yourself to be responsible for what you are facing through. Because, what doesn't kill you makes me stronger.

Third, allow yourself to grow from these things and create a better you by sharpening your character! Gain confidence, don't allow expectations to bring you down and have a good hand of people that will support you when needed! Have fun and don't let obstacles bring you down to hell, because death is not an option. You're just beating God in his own game. Live life with your happiness and let your happiness affect other people in a positive way!

The End. :)

Just Scars in Wattpad

Hi! I just started a wattpad story just for enjoyment's sake! :)

Click here to read it!

Summary: 

Danielle is an average teenager and ideal blogger. The type that would fit any normal girl. Like most, she has a boyfriend that's always by her side as faces her family everyday! A true to life story, Danielle envelopes herself from the world and becomes wiser as she confronts tomorrow with head up high. But what will happen if depression suddenly takes her over, and might cost her her life?

I just copy pasted what was written on the summary so... Yeah. I created this story in order for the average teenager,mostly those that are in the depression side, to shine a light on them and be able to see that what they're doing (harming themselves, suicide...) is not the answer! It's just a series of chains of mistakes that allow us to develop ourselves and give us wisdom by learning from our mistakes, that there is an answer to everything and that we realize the true beauty of ourselves that we forget to appreciate!

So try reading it for a change..
It's actually based on true events. So you can be assured that it's not bullsh*t. :)

My bad case of Philophobia.

It may seem like a pen work, but it's not, since I have taken a bath everyday and it has not left the premises of my body.

Ever since I experimented on my mom's things in order to create a temporary tattoo, I have written the word Philophobia on my left hand. It's not a pen work okay!?

It's in mirror setting.
I had no idea how to fix that picture... Anyways. Philophobia means: fear of Love.
I have had a bad impression on Love in my relationships. Expecially when I got hurt. So I try my best to avoid having relationships. I mean, I'm a bookworm and all, and I read how love has affected people in beautiful ways! But I'm having a hard time being convinced that my lovestory will end the same... I also have another one near my ankle,

It's in mirror setting too.
It says Pistanthrophobia. Pistanthrophobia means: trust issues due to experience from bad relationships, fear of trusting. Then again, yeah, I'm having a hard time trusting a person who says, "Your eperience with me will be different!" or "Things will be better with me in you life." Yeah.... I'm tired of that shit.

Look, I'm not making this blog just to brag my stupid pen tattoos cuz I'm too scared for the real thing. I'm here to discuss the topic of relationships.
Like me, I do my best not to get tangled up in men's issues, or more likely, their life. But that does not mean you have to force yourself not to fall in love. That's bad. I have learned a great deal of things through my horrible relationships! And these are things that you can apply in life! (how you can't expect men to like girl movies, vice versa.)

I made this blog for the person who recently opened up to me about her fear of being rejected because she has fallen in love with a person who will never see her as a woman. Her teacher. (You're not the only one, babe.) I know that there are soooooo many boundaries and obstacles that are stopping you from the man of your dreams! My professor just made a note about that on facebook, (the same prof who created 'The Uncertainity of Tomorrow' from my Blog 'Casuality and Life'.) But don't let that stop you! You have to tell that person your feelings, or else they'll just keep growing and growing until you pop! Don't let fear stop you like what it did to me.

If you're able to tell that person how you feel, then you'd have a good conversation about how things are supposed to be done. How it may affect your life and what are the probabilities of the relationship you are entering... You might get rejected, yes, but now you are open to why you can't be together.

I know you made fun of my home done tattoos, and I forgive you, (you little sh*t.) that's why I'm dedicating this blog to you. Don't let fear stop you from doing what you want and what you need to do. Use your courage to tell your attraction to that person and allow yourself to look at others with the same eyes you used to look at your crush. :) If not, I can always give you the link or the note of what my professor created in the circumstances why your teacher or professor crush can't be in a relationship with you. just message me!

Walk the Walk, but can you Talk the Talk?

Imagine this...

You are walking along school grounds, new semester so new you! Gotta make some hot new friends, so we gonna have to look good and rad, baby! So as you were walking along the streets to adulthood and popularity, you see a nice candidate for being your friend. So you walk up right to him (or her.) and play it cool...

Then you decided to talk, "Me (your name), You Friend!"

*Loud crashing noise* Cave man much?

Nah I'm just exaggerating! But really, having to talk to people, sucks! Most of all when you know you're not really that social! You are like the muchness of blogging and being an introvert! You can literally write a book on how moving the mouse is your only exercise! Let me guess, you wear sweat pants and a XXL t-shirt at home, tie your hair in a bun and have cats as your only wanted companion and your sweet heaven is your bedroom.

Now that's just being a stereotype blogger, but you get the point! You're having a hard time talking to people, to be a fact, having a hard time making a friend.

This is normal. By normal, I mean it happens to everybody! You might think you're the only one having a hard time, but most of us have these symptoms, which are:

• Having to think twice on what you're gonna say.
• Stuttering or muttering in order to hide embarrassment, or making a fool out of yourself.
• Simply not talking in order to avoid unnecessary comments or impressions from people.

I know the list goes on and on and on and on! But let's face it, you're just avoiding the thought that people might think you're a weirdo. (Mostly what I'm doing.) But I didn't stand for nothing! I dedicated my life to research! Thesis! and all kinds of science words and stuff just to come up with tips on how to make friends!!

1. Examine the person. See if that person reminds you of yourself because sometimes, you need to judge people by how they act in order to know if they're good company or someone compatible with you. If not because you follow a morale code of a person who does not judge a book by it's cover, experiment yourself and just try to speak to the person you seem comfortable with.
2. Thinking of a topic is one of the biggest dilemmas, they not only start a conversation, but also give you an idea on the person's personality! Ask a question. Usual topic starters are like, "Hi, I'm (your name). How old are you?" or "Are you new here?" or "What's you name?" There are a lot of questions! But start simple, something not too deep, just average. What they're favorite color is, where are they from, do they like the things you do... Another technique is the 'I've noticed' type, "Hi! I'm (your name), I've noticed that your..."  just add up! Be creative!
3. Simply let them notice you. They'll have to notice you somehow and try to speak to you, after that, just go with the flow.

 So those are just some starters on how to make friends, but remember, the moment you seem uncomfortable with them, just let them go. Because friends are supposed to make you comfortable, like you're normal! There are bad influences and people that might abuse you, so be pretty sharp and take control of who you want to be with. You know they're your 'peeps' or 'homies' if they have the same likes and dislikes with you, you help each other through challenges and care about you in a manner similar to siblings. It's all up to you that is, my blog is just advice and a guide because you have the power my friend! But if things don't end well, I'm always here to help you!

Casuality and Life

So, I had this professor in Logic and he posted a neat note on David Hume and The Uncertainty of Tomorrow. It was nerve wrecking and philosophical! Anyways, what strikes me best was the word causality. How one thing affects the other, or more simply called as "cause and effect." Kinda explains Life.

I know, Life is such a m*therf*cker sometimes, but most times, these are just series of events from bad decision making and rash choices. Your sister hates you because you used her stuff on a temporary emotion. I know, it's my fault, and due to these circumstances, I have the consequence of a dying relationship with her that I am now slowly trying to build once more as time passes by.

These things or events are then called 'mistakes'. A disgusting word for perfectionists and vile for optimists. I have to live with my mistakes, but I never regret them. They are paths to change and a grasp of knowledge. A birth of Wisdom.Though they hurt, they help us learn and make better beings of ourselves. We regret our actions but we do not regret our consequences, but saddened because they are the outcomes of our insolence and stupidity. Things we are not or never proud to mention.

We all make paths for our life. Sometimes you'll think that you're not good enough. You'll think that no one will ever accept you for what you've done. Due to these things we lose people we love, we cared about, things that mattered and held so much for you... Ahem. But what's important is what it does for you, because everything has a reason. The people you meet, the things you gain and lose... The consequences may be too much, but we need to face those things and hop for the best. If better, we have another chance to fix things right again.

These things don't matter anymore. We forget the events to forget the pain, but they leave scars on us that will forever remind us of the things we weren't proud of. But it's time we stop thinking about them and forgive our self. Because that's what matters most.

In my Opinion that is.

Weirdness Level over 900000!

Okay. I've had so many people call me 'weird'. Which is at the same time offensive and a compliment. Maybe that's the problem why I have trouble talking, or making friends, or just plainly be around students. Or teenagers... People. I mean, I'm called weird, all the time! By my sisters, friends, not-so-close friends, even strangers. And let me tell you that (based from experience.) that I find it offensive, and hurting. It's like you're asking us why we're crazy. kumbaga, sira ulo.

I know that's not what you meant to portray when you ask that.

But let's face it, we already know we're weird, but you just had to ask that and let the obvious be a topic and what's worse, bring it out as a sarcastic, insult of a stupid joke. I know some people don't find it offending, but I do. Especially when I try to talk to people, I find it really hard and frustrating to think of  a topic and have to try and create a conversation with them. When people say you're weird, it's like they're stating that you're not normal, you stand out, you're a freak. You're not one of us and you have some issues and we find it awkward to be with you! And that hurts... A lot. Most of all when the people I thought accepted me for who I am, then they question my behavior as if they never knew I had it in me...

Just for your information, it's not like I wanted to be weird.

I never intended to be. But then again, we are all weird. We know that! We all have these things that are out of the ordinary, behaviors and traits that we find out of place. We are not alone, we may seem different, but there are thousands of other people just like us! Maybe when people ask you in an insulting manner why you are weird, just states the obvious sign that they're not the friends you should have. You haven't met them yet because people will never doubt you, or be awkward with you if they have accepted you for who you are, thus not questioning you of what makes you, you. 

Books vs. Technology. FIGHT! *kampai*

It all started on one nice, rainy day. I was having a boring class in Environmental Science where my fellow students were giving a report that no one besides the professor was paying attention to. I had my earphones plugged in and all that (which was kind of rude.) and minding my own business, when I saw my seatmate was reading a book on his phone. I think it's called an E-book or something... Anyways, I decided to butt in and ask if I could read as well!

And it was horrible.

Not the book (Which was Fifty Shades of Grey), I mean the experience of having to read it on an Iphone! Thus, the topic of the blog today!

*Ding Ding*

Round One! First off, I think books are waaaay better than having to read it on a phone or pad or whatever! I mean, nothing beats that really addicting new book scent. *sniff sniff* ahhhh... And that it's great to feel the paper between your fingertips! Second, what if your phone shuts down or doesn't have enough batteries? BOOM. you're left with no phone, no calls or texts and no entertainment! With a book, you won't have to worry about power. You just read where you left off! Third, books are very original, when you read it on the phone, you're not certain if anybody tampered with what was really written, and you get the feeling that it's a fake!

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Round Two! There are downsides to the stuff I said of course, First off, yeah there's no new book scent, but it's a lot cheaper than having to buy books! You just download it and it's there. Voila. Second, is the bookmarking. With phones, you just exit the app and you're stuck with where you left off! AND, it's very convenient. It's not heavy, it doesn't take up space in your bag since all you need is your pocket!

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Round Three! Books have that special effect where, when you read it in a certain place or a certain time, it kinda preserves the moment! Whenever you get that book out of your shelf, all those memories and those scents suddenly comes back to you and it feels really nostalgic... Second, all that radiation can hurt your eyes! Having to spend so much time in front of LED light or something, can really damage your eyes you know. It's not healthy! Third, nothing compares to the feeling of carrying a tradition with you, we are seriously allowing ourselves to be basked in the culture of reading from fine print.

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Round Four! Books are really inconvenient, especially when it's night time! You can't read when it's dark, with phones, you don't need to bring a flashlight with you or let the light on when you want to read! Second--

That's enough. Because for all I know, when I was creating this Blog, this debate is endless because there are so many possibilities that we can say or share in this kind of topic, especially if you are really determined to defend your chosen team! (TEAM BOOKS!!) and we all have different opinions on this and we have every right to share them. But to my readers out there, please do share to me on what side you're on!! :DD Books or Technology?

*Ding Ding!*

Language Barriers on Blogs

I know this has got to be, one of the many issues when writing, composing or doing anything that has to do with words or languages.

I mean really.

I just checked on the page views I had for 'There's more to life than love. There's more to life than grades.' and i checked the weird graph that came along with it. It stated there the viewers and the country where they lived in. Four of them were from america, one from Ukraine and three from South Korea and one from the Philippines. Well. I forgot where the other one lived. Anyways! The point is, did they understand what I wrote on that blog? I mean, I used English and my native language (Which is Tagalog.) on it and I dare say is that, did they really see the point of the blog they just read?

You see, this is why it's hard for us all to communicate. I mean, we should like, have one universal language or something so whenever we spoke to each other, wherever we may be, we would understand one another and not have second meanings or other interpretations because of the accents and the languages we use! Not only is it a burden or anything, but I think it's a good topic for all of us on how we communicate to others.

I just went on 9gag the other day and I saw this hilarious post about a manly guy who had a Chinese character for a tattoo, but the tattoo meant (sorry for the language,) 'pussy.' It was embarrassing! I mean, what if you had that tattoo and passed along someone who can read it, wouldn't that give them other thoughts? yes, it would. It would give them a bad impression on the person who has the tattoo.  Personally on my opinion, I hate the fact that there's a language barrier on us, especially for bloggers. I have a spanish follower on my Tumblr and whenever she reblogs a post, even if it might seem funny, I can't understand it and I have to open up Google translate just to decipher her post!

It's exhausting and frustrating. :( Not does that only stop us from communicating with others, and allow ourselves to be open to the people that we're missing out on, but it gives us the wrong idea of the people we live in! Especially for those who are misjudged and tormented by how they talk, or how they're different! Sigh.

I'm sorry. I'm just so frustrated and hurt!

But let's not be rash here.Let's still remain open and try to communicate. Don't be a stereotype and do what the other people do, be yourself and be hospitable. I have no idea what I'm saying anymore, but it just leads us to one thing, Don't let Barriers stop you from doing what you want, if not, try to be mindful of the other people and allow yourself to help them be convenient in the language we use. So from now on, I'm gonna use the English language when blogging, for the sake of other viewers and readers out there. :D

There's more to life than love. There's more to life than grades.

'Grabe ang baba ng grade ko sa ganito!'

'Dapat ganito ung grade ko sa ganyan!'

'Dapat nagaral pa ko ng ganito ganyan!'

Seems familiar?

yan ang usual sentences na naririnig natin sa mga grade conscious na kaklase nten. (lalo na sa mga nagsabi na 'di daw' sila grade conscious.) Tipong tapos na ung quiz nyo may iba pa silang aaralin. ung madali na ung quiz magaaral padn. :/ walang buhay teh? I know that studying is REALLY important. That grabes really matter! But there's a choice of a healthy challenge we get from school from having to stress so much on studying that you break down and cry because of it. They're just numbers. Di umiikot ang mundo sa pag-aaral mo. As long as it's balanced. Enough time to study, enough time to enjoy life.

One more thing about that is, aral muna bago love life. Who are you kidding?! come on. What does that have to do with studying? "wala na kasing time para mag-aral kasi iniintindi mo si bf o si gf." "ayaw nya kasi na di ko sya pinapansin." BRO. ANU BA YAN. wag mo kasi paikutin mundo mo sa iisang tao. di lang nman kasi sya ang importante. Wag ka makipagrelasyon kung hindi mo kaya mabalance ung mga responsibility mo tsaka ang taong mahal mo. Atsaka kung mahal ka nya, iintindihin nya na kelangan mo dn magaral, if better, tulungan ka nya sa pag-aaral mo! Love is having to share the burdens and help each other to grow no matter what happens, even if you move apart or not! There are people that purposely try not to have a love life even if it's the person they really have because of their studies. No man, that's wrong... Lahat tayo nakaka-experience ng ganyan at dapat alam na natin ung gagawin sa ganyan. Balance lang yan. Let yourself enjoy these things and become open-minded in the things that we may never experience when we get older, because you'll end up regretting it in the end.

I'm not trying to be a bad influence or anything.

All i'm saying is that, a college degree does not assure you a job.

Enjoy life as it is and allow yourself to see the things that you never knew was there. Wag lang ung sobra okay? Like i said. Balance. Be a kid while you can and be an adult to what matters. Have fun and enjoy yourself to pleasures and explore to where your heart takes you. Study because you need to, not because you have to and because you want to.

to those grade conscious students who complain about their already passing grades, try to be content with what you have and be sensitive to those who weren't able to attain that grade. Be humble, because literally, some students are insensitive to the other students who failed. Don't complain okay? Just be happy that you passed and look forward to doing better in the next test. :) There are more things that matter than those that revolve around in the academic world.