Perfection: A woman's presumed goal in life

A jolly good day to all. It's early in the morning and I am to wait for my usual time in for my community service at school. I had a violation and it’s best not to ask about it. I had just finished my breakfast of coffee and bread, which I always buy fresh at the bakery behind the school grounds. I had a bit of time to relax and enjoy myself, so I fancied a little social media entertainment to update myself on the local news and, well, entertainment. It's common these days, especially on facebook, this little game or trend where you tag people to a picture.

Example: 'Ang tunay na maganda malaki braso.' / 'Ang tunay na maganda mahaba buhok.'

It’s awful. Horrible. I hate it, this stupid little trend. I know I shouldn’t keep it to heart or let it affect me since it’s just a measly little joke to others, but I can’t help it. Perhaps men do really have different standards for women on what they define beautiful or perfect, but it’s unfair. It’s like they’re objectifying or sexualizing women based on their preferences that lead women to think or doubt their own beauty because they can’t seem to change aspects of their body to meet the standards of men they like. Thus, making perfection the very goal of women in our modern society! But as I write about this, I am not blaming men for this, but I blame the stupid sexism that befalls women who only wish to be comfortable in their own skin. Women and girls crave that beach body or to lose weight, have that surgery for the very reason because other women who are the icons of beauty have that body or that stupid high arched nose. 

Every woman is beautiful. I know that not because I simply see beauty in everything, but I too was a victim of this forsaken trend of attaining perfection. I wanted to meet the standard of what a beautiful woman is, which are those you see in tv or in magazines, and simply hated myself for being me. Some women are like that, because of such silly ideas that beauty is being perfect or accepted in society where they praise and glorify you… it's saddening, that being truly beautiful for other women is the mere concept of being praised and glorified by people for physical aesthetics rather than empowering and developing valuable character. I did not wish to lash out, but it affects me as I care for the beautiful souls of every little girl and woman that wakes up every morning and despises the person they see in the mirror. Rather than being happy, they quiver at the sight of their own beauty and crave for what belongs to others. Everyone tends to forget that every person is unique.

When I was still young, I despised myself everyday for being mocked and told I was ugly or fat because I didn’t meet the beauty of the other girls which they thought were beautiful or sexy. It was devastating, being bullied for my appearance and my dark skin… They would couple me up with boys that didn't want me and girls would taunt me for my skin since theirs were fair and white. With that, I aimed to be perfect. I aimed to lose weight and change myself for their approval. I starved myself and bought various products to change what they thought were ugly, which led to various consequences like anorexia and an ulcer. My hair fell apart due to experiments on having the perfect look, my skin had allergies on using kojic acid soap and my heart seemed to die everyday… this continued until my college years, and even then I was haunted by greed and envy for attention and beauty. 

But now, I've had enough.

I am so sick of tired of having to fit every glove just to kiss other people's asses just for them to notice me! I am tired of having to crave their approval and change myself just to meet their stupid standards. I want to love myself and glorify myself as I am a goddess, every woman is, and should only have to change themselves for their own development and satisfaction! Don't lose weight just to show your ex you're fine without him or so other men would want you, lose weight because you want to! Revenge isn't having to prove the other person wrong, but allowing yourself to finally be happy in your own skin and presence. Put on make-up because you want that extra confidence, sport that bold lipstick because you feel powerful. Every women should think less of what others would say and actually learn to love themselves for what they have. Every woman is beautiful and should be content. Life is far too short to woe others, woe yourself. 

Perfection is finding happiness and loving your imperfections amidst your insecurities.

Let them judge you or taunt you, but never let them define who you are by how you look, not everyone knows your story, so learn to live life with a beautiful character and be proud of yourself because you've made it this far.

Election day!

It's been quite a while since I last wrote a blog, and I must admit that I may be a little rusty, the same goes for my grammar and vocabulary. I just can't help but touch a very sensitive topic that is yet to be brought up in this heated time of the year, politics. Politics in my perspective is a very delicate and complicated topic on which I wish not to be caught up with as it may spark various controversies as opinion in this date of the year is justified by who has shared it, positive or negative. I hope to avoid negative criticism, as though it may be good for me, I do not think I am stable enough to handle such. May 9, 2016 is a memorable day for every Pilipino as it is election day! Various candidates aiming for presidency are sharing their own different methods to govern and change the system of the country for the rise of the economy and the lives of the citizens. Everyone expects so much from these brave and bold candidates since the Philippines is in a state of turmoil. But as amazing and impossible may their method's be for solving the problems of the country, every candidate aims for one thing, change. Do you believe, as a concerned citizen, that one man or woman that aims to be the most powerful person in the country can accomplish such a task? To be quite frank such a thing is impossible, especially with the short period of 6 years and with the risk of impeachment. As the elections come and passes by, people still think that a single individual can actually accomplish a change for the better, relying on the president for such pressure that is supposed to be done by all. Many expect change but refuse to change, fearing the unknown and inevitable as things may seem hard enough as it is to lose too much when you change. Perhaps some have become too accustomed to what they have now, since most are not too happy with having to change. Some as I have mentioned earlier, fear having to lose more than they already have. Change have it's consequences, especially for those in the lower class who have so little, including the voices to stop those who take away their homes and livelihoods for the better of the economy and the city's splendor. It cannot be avoided. It is hard for those who have to stomach such cruelty to their brothers and sisters do their duties without having to break some hearts. But as people are faced with the change they have longed so much for, they slap it away like a fly that had landed on their face. To achieve such impossibility cannot be done by one man alone, people should know that by now, every person must contribute their own in order to affect each other, as kindness and laughter is also contagious, so should change. What would be there for the president if the governed refuse to be governed? What will happen to us if all refuse to cooperate? Every little good thing you do can do so much in their own little way. Instead of taking advantage of those around you, why not help better them with what you have. Share your knowledge and wealth for other people's well-being. In these times it's even hard to trust your neighbor, but who can we blame? People often fail to see the fault in themselves because of pride or dignity, choosing to blame the government. Well, I blame them sometimes but that does not give us a reason to continue doing so. My father raised me to do what was right in the eyes of the Lord and the Law, and so should others. Poverty and a lack of a silver spoon is not an excuse to commit crime and sin, it is what we do with the gift of life that determines us. Can you picture the future of our country from now? Is it horrible? Then change. Imagine a world where your children are free from the fear of being mugged or kidnapped, so start to make a difference. Cooperate, do what is right and proper.

Change.