Good day to everyone who bothers to read my blog! :> It has been a while since I last made a post and I thought, 'meh, why not? I am currently taking a little breather from mother caring (actually, I'm sick. So I can't really touch my daughter.) and decided to make a post about one of the most controversial issues of the soul, self-love.
Self-love is so important for oneself because it affects factors like self-esteem and confidence that helps in one's improvement and bringing out the best in a person. Self-love is simply accepting one's imperfections and flaws and feeling comfortable in one's skin no matter what opinions they hear from other people. It's standing up for yourself when negative comments come your way and being firm when society judges you. But somehow, like a bouquet, the beauty of self-love is slowly wilting away as a person is affected by outside forces, often leaving someone like a hollow shell.
'he'll never look my way because i'm ugly.'
'I won't pass because i'm too stupid.'
'I'll never look as good as her.'
'She'll never like me because I'm a nerd.'
Having no self-love is a serious and big deal because it may lead to more serious problems like depression. It's also heartbreaking to see people being harmed and frustrated by their own thoughts. But do not be confused and believe in the myth that you can't love someone else if you cannot love yourself. That's bullsh*t. Other people are important for you to gain self-love because sometimes it's them who point out the important things that you never seemed to notice because you're too busy looking down on yourself. Sometimes, the people you love are the stepping stones that allows you to love yourself since they love you, why can't you love you? And remember, everything has a cure.
Acceptance is the first step to gaining love. By accepting who you are, the world would seem so much better and life would be easier for you. By changing that 'I can't' into an 'I can', the impossible will be possible. Do not be blinded by society's ideal standards for beauty or people's opinions, you are not here to please them, you are here to please you. You are deserving of the purest and most authentic love, so do not look down on yourself! By accepting your flaws and imperfections, you will look back at those dark days and wonder why you were ever sad in the first place. Self-love is a cure for the times that you cried that you weren't as pretty as the girl you saw in a mag. Fancy your curves, smile and don't let other people's opinions drown your own voice!
This applies to everybody, instead on loathing that a girl dumped you, smile and accept it. It's her loss. Women are not the only ones suffering from this, men have it hard too.
Just remember that instead of looking for the right person, focus on being the right person. Self-love can take you to places that you've never been before, by embracing your skin and boosting your confidence, everyday won't seem such a chore anymore. Have an assignment, talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love. Don't compare yourself to others because they are not you. You are your own person. Enjoy that.
Stop shaming yourself. You are Beautiful!
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